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Talking after sex matters. Science and societal wisdom agree that the post-sex period of heightened emotion and willing vulnerability is a precious time that builds intimacy and deepens your ability to connect well … in and out of bed.
How can you capitalize on the psychological and physiological need for attachment? What exactly do you talk about to continue to feel bonded?
More than three decades ago, therapist and researcher Dr. Francine Shapiro, developed a type of trauma therapy called Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, or EMDR. The therapy was born from an observation she made walking in a park one day. Shapiro noticed that moving her eyes appeared to decrease negative emotions associated with certain bad memories.
She combined other therapeutic components with eye movement and developed the researched and validated therapeutic protocol that is used today. EMDR therapy is a useful treatment for the after-effects of trauma and other negative life experiences.
Early in your relationship, the thought that you might need tips for initiating sex were probably the furthest thing from your mind. There was a lot of sex and subsequently, a lot of talk about sex. Yet, over time, both the sex and the conversation surrounding it tend to slow down.
Realistically, it’s not surprising that lust cools and intimacy shifts as the relationship matures. But, if a couple is not communicating about their sex life, it can spell trouble.
Looking for ways to motivate yourself?
You thought you knew what you wanted. The drive and ambition were there. You could feel them in your bones and your heart. Whether it was completing a degree, working on a project, or implementing a new fitness regime, you were dedicated to your goal.
Yet, somewhere along the line, your ambition began to waver. You lost focus and things just stalled out.
Now you feel stuck, struggling to bring up the drive to get started again.
According to author, Gary Chapman, there are five love languages for couples; five primary ways individuals demonstrate their love for one another.
Although his theory isn’t based on scientific research, it is backed by more than 30 years of anecdotal evidence from Chapman’s experience as a marriage and couples counselor.
As the new year begins, many people start thinking about New Year’s goals and resolutions, or how they can better themselves in the months ahead.
Focusing on taking better care of yourself can make it easier to complete the other goals that are important to you.
Follow these 10 self-care tips as you enter the new year, and you’ll undoubtedly see how much easier it will be to keep up with your plans and goals for the new year and feel great while doing it.
You know how it goes.
Something major happens in government, media, or on the global stage. Then, the next day (after a night of cable news and scrolling through Facebook headlines), you may find yourself with coworkers, or out for a drink with friends, or having dinner with your partner or another family member, when the political topic comes up and the conversation starts to get heated.
Everyone has their own mantras for meditation. Words and phrases you tell yourself routinely. Some serve you well…others, not so much.
What about you? How well do speak of and to yourself?
Are you a friend to the rumpled person in the bathroom mirror? Do you soothe your inner employee after a misstep at work? Are you kind and supportive to your inner self when a friend or loved one lets you down or walks away?
Your beginnings matter.
The who and how of your initial life experiences made lasting impressions that ripple through your life today. For better or worse, your family of origin is the place to start for key information about who you are and how you relate to others.
For all of us, the family dynamics in our original family system impact our values, core beliefs, and our self-perceptions.
